NINE OF CUPS
How do I improve the quality of platonic love in my life?: The 9 of Cups:
The Hermit is number 9 in the major arcana and teaches us how to transform LONELINESS into ALONENESS, that feeling of deep connection and enjoyment of one's own company. I keep this idea of aloneness in mind with the four 9's of the minor arcana. I see them as being deeply alone in their individual suit. The cups suit represents emotional connection. This card does not mean being alone emotionally, but rather learning how to be alone and creating sacred space from emotional connection.
Here we see a man very grounded in who he is. He sits firmly in front of his trophies, very proud of all he's accomplished. He says to me, "Take time for yourself. Give yourself space to reflect on all the beautiful people surrounding you. This will give you a deeper appreciation for the time you actually do spend with your loved ones. Tell them how much they inspire, challenge, and fill up your cup. Treat them just as reverently you would a prized trophy or sacred object. Polish them. Cherish them. Show them off."
9 of Cups paired w/ Pink Tourmaline encourages the focus of your loving energy towards yourself. If you're feeling stressed out, scared, or devastated, first start by telling yourself, "I love you." Mars in Aquarius may shift your physical energy towards humanitarianism, however if you put all of your energy here, you may grow anxious. Rest easy knowing that YOU ARE ENOUGH. As long as you're loving yourself fully and whole-heartedly, with gentle loving touch, you usher in a ripple effect of loving vibrations to the world around you. Be soft, stay sweet with yourself. You deserve it.
Being tapped in to the world at large, knowing there's hunger all over this planet, I used to feel guilty whenever I ate. If I would indulge in something extravagant, I would ruminate on how selfish I was. It went beyond food. I would deprive myself the right to take a bath bc I didn't want to waste water. I made myself a martyr for the world at large... a heavy burden to carry. ✨When we place judgement on ourselves for enjoying the sweetness of life, we rob ourselves of our true essence. If you're feeling a sense of guilt, it's an invitation to examine your behavior. What is it you're feeling guilty about? Where is it deriving from? ✨More often than not, guilt is birthed out of beliefs/culture/behavior not aligned with your path. What's important is to not internalize the guilt. This is what creates dis-ease in our energetic body, and drains our sense of joy. Guilt isn't our enemy. It's a beautiful flag, waving around saying, "hey! Something isn't aligned w/ the truest expression of your radiant soul." If we can check-in w/ guilt, and understand its desires, it can be a guide to radical change. Instead of beating yourself up, you can transform that energy towards being an agent for the change you wish to see. It wasn't until I listened to + treated these feelings like my own child, that I discovered the root of my guilt came from a desire to help give back to the world. By checking in + nurturing my guilt, it gave me the confidence to stop waiting tables, and to live the life I know today, as a teacher and tarot reader. ✨✨ The 9 of Cups Rx comes as a gentle reminder that it's okay for me to enjoy the pleasures of life. Aquarius Rising's soul purpose centers on advancing consciousness. I can find myself discouraged when change doesn't happen quick enough, and can make myself a martyr. Seeing this spread today reminds me to not be so serious, and not to punish myself for not evolving quicker. We can relax knowing we all have a right to just simply enjoy.
What is my relationship to sexuality? 9 of Cups.
The word "sexuality" can be uncomfortable and conjure up uncertainty for many. We can point our finger at the sexually repressive culture we live in. We can always blame outside forces, but let's look closer.
Svadhisthana, the second chakra, element of water, is located around the hips and reproductive organs. Svadhisthana, the center of pleasure and sexuality, when translated to English means, "one's own place" or "the dwelling place of the self." Sexuality is our own. Personal. Private. Sacred. In the tarot, 9's represent being alone and cups represent water. This card is a beautiful representation of a balanced sacral chakra. When our sacral chakra or sexual energy is balanced it manifests in the world through graceful movements, ability to adapt, accepting of change, enjoying simple pleasures, and having clear healthy boundaries with others.
Seeing this as a card for what is my personal relationship to sexuality is a nice meditation of what to aim for. Here this figure sits very secure in who he is. He's not wavering from side to side, yet is still open to the many cups displayed behind him. He understands that sexuality ebs and flows and is subject to change throughout lifetime. He understands that putting ourselves in a box of gender, orientation, or preferred position ⬆️⬇️ is restrictive to the natural flow of desires.
The figure reminds me a lot of pleasure shaman Stewart Blackburn. He teaches workshops on understanding how sexuality can be channeled to bring not only more joy and love in to our lives, but into the lives of others as well. He's teaching a weeklong workshop in Hawaii in February and looks like Santa Clause. And this post is making me wanna go. Join me?